Bound Up With Sincerity
In early April, I posted an entry titled Yorkie Tales. Today I have another observation and application that comes from my recent experience grooming Honey.
As you see in this video, Honey was not at all happy with the task at hand. She complained throughout the grooming process and at some points even sounds quite fierce. She was so funny in her huffiness that I had Bob take a video. While he was filming and when I was giving her a break from the “torture” she gives me a “kiss” even though I am obviously the cause of her discomfort.
Honey’s interaction with me led me to consider why she could respond positively to me in a situation that was clearly negative for her, and to think about the same in the larger context of human relationships. In my personal and professional relationships I’ve occassionally had to be the bearer of unwelcome news, had to turn down a request, had to face or be the cause of discontent, etc, yet in nearly every situation, the relationship was maintained and in many cases mutual respect deepened.
I believe sincerity is a strong factor in binding and growing relationships, even through the difficult situations, whereas insincerity is a predecessor to manipulation and pursuit of self-interest. Dictionary.com defines sincerity as the quality or condition of being sincere; genuineness, honesty, and freedom from duplicity. True sincerity is genuine and unselfish.
When people (or pets in this situation) know that motives are pure and honest, they trust can trust in the care you’ve expressed in them. Sincerity binds up relationships and secures them. Honey knows I love her and probably senses that the grooming routine is in her best interest – she knows I am sincere and that my actions are rooted in that sincerity.
“To give real service you must add something which cannot be bought or measured with money, and that is sincerity and integrity. ” –Douglas Adams
“Love must be sincere.” — Romans 12:9a
Share your thoughts. Do you think sincerity is a significant factor in overcoming tough spots in relationships? Tell about your experiences.